Why are you here @ explore-being-human.org? Facing an issue or a problem?
Most people come here for one of three reasons:
- Trouble -> looking for help, connection and solutions (ease)?
- Curiosity -> Dream of more life and self empowerment (challenge)?
- Learning -> Exploring more options, methods and wisdom (browse)
All are valid reasons and all are representatives of a strong natural urge to live more fully and deal with changes in life.
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Each of us, at different times of our lives, encounter one of two very dominant energy flows in our inner world: a) One is boredom or curiosity, looking for ways to satisfy us more than the present (challenge). b) The other is frustration and suffering needing attention and sometimes immidiate action or help (ease)
If you are experiencing a ‘battle’ internally between these two options of challenge an ease, don’t worry, it is natural to feel pain when you ‘have’ to make a choice. It is one of the most common pains in our world of ‘having to make choices’.
If you feel discomfort about the choice above, then choose the path of ‘ease’. Both are valid, and you can choose the other path later. You lose nothing by making this choice now and there is no time limit.
Behind every choice there are still these two basic energies at work but we may be closer now to see what the forces really are:
- worries (fear) about making the ‘wrong’ choice or fear of the discomfort of mistakes (and ‘bad’ choices)
- curiosity about what the choices may bring of new life, A willingness to meet the discomfort of the unknown
Fear is a very dominant energy, so dominant that it can control our behavior and choices and so dominant that it can ‘freeze’ us entirely and prevent any action or make us ‘run for safety’.
Our advice is still to trust us and choose the path of ‘ease’ if you feel unsure.
But if the choice is still too uncomfortable to make, here are some steps you can try out to ease the pain of making a choice into the unknown:
Life is change (discomfort) and real comfort, and both are needed. Real comfort is connection – human deep trusted connection! Change can be conscious and according to our values. Let’s move away from fear and make that change together.
Close your eyes and wait for a while. Allow your thoughts to wonder about the possible benefits you may find by making a choice in this moment of your life. Allow the fear of choices to roam in your mind and trace what the fear is doing to you. Does it freeze you or make you run for safety?